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Are you that Crab in a Pot?

Are you that Crab in a Pot?

Have you ever noticed how crabs that are caught in a net, dangling from the end of the bait, about to be cooked in a pot, hold on to each other for dear life? I know you have noticed. You can’t help but notice. Well, they grab each other by the legs and by the claws and they pull and pull until they damn near break each other’s legs off. In some cases, they do break off the legs and claws. In extreme cases, they kill each other. I know you are wondering where this is going, right? Well, if you know me, you know I am fitting to tell you!

Are you a crab? I am not talking about literally a crab, but figuratively speaking. Are you that person that sees your friend, associate, or maybe a rival, getting ahead and you hate on them, sabotage them, or make their accomplishment seem like it is mediocre? In other words, you young folk, may refer to this “crab behavior” as being a “hater”.

Well, I say, don’t hate the player, hate the game. What God Has For You is For You! No man, woman, crab, or hater can take that away. Anyway, back to my crabs, they pull and hold on, but failing to realize that the more they hold on to what the other crab has, the more they put themselves closer to the boiling pot. Humph, I think all of us have been a crab at some point in our lives; however, the crabs that miss the boiling pot are the ones who realize that they must just LET IT GO or Kick the ‘ish out of those CRABS holding on!  I’m just saying!

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~Ni’KayCrabs in a Pot

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Posted by on January 5, 2016 in Uncategorized


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Death Do Us Part

Death Do Us Part


Coming January 2016

Stay Tuned!  Some women take their vows seriously.  Nola “Cookie” Mason gives new meaning to Death Do Us Part.

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Posted by on November 21, 2015 in Uncategorized


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A Pass to Cheat

So, Monique says, in the article link below, that allowing your man to cheat is okay.  Hmmm.  She even references the marriage vows and  friendship.  Does cheating go hand in hand with any of those words (marriage, friendship).  Is she a self-proclaimed  Cheater’s Wife?

In my opinion, why get married?  Be single.  Be with who you want… as many people as you want. 
Married and cheating are antonyms of each other!   They just just don’t go together.

Read the article and let me know what you think.  While you are at it, grab your copy of The Cheater’s Wife by going to my website at


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Posted by on November 18, 2015 in Uncategorized


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Born to Die


Why do we cry when people are laid to rest?  We are all born to die. It’s like a blueprint for life.  Once the clock strikes that magic hour, our time is up. 

Why do we cry when people are laid to rest?  Isn’t the place we are going better than here on Earth?

Why do we cry when people are laid to rest?  Is it because we didn’t give them the flowers while they were here or is it because we mistreated them?

Why do we cry when people are laid to rest?  When the ashes turn to ashes and dust turns to dust, we know that is where we came from and where we will return. It is our destiny.

Why do we cry when people are laid to rest?  Is there a certain level of jealousy because you know their troubles are now over and you have to go back to your miserable reality?

Why do we cry when people are laid to rest?  Well, I hypothesize that we are trained to be sad when someone dies, but there are several things that we need to realize. 

We need to know that weeping may endure for a night, but joy will come in the morning.  Now, it might not be tomorrow morning. It may not be the next morning or even the next, but it will come. 

Lastly, understand that there is no need to cry because we all were born to die.

© Author NiKay

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Posted by on April 7, 2012 in Uncategorized


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I Am Not Feeling It

Not Really Feeling It

Hey! I am not really feeling it! Not really feeling the ongoing drama.

Not really feeling the days events. Not really all the mess that doesn’t make sense.

Not really feeling all the aches and the pains. NOT REALLY FEELING ALL OF YOUR COMPLAINTS!

Not really feeling it…not feeling it all. Not feeling the workload or overload…cause its too much to haul.

Not feeling your attitude because I’m not under your compliance….for real though we are not an alliance. 

Not feeling you. Not feeling them. Not feeling the inconsistencies of your generosities.

Humph, I am not feeling it, feeling it at all, so I am going to put it in my little box, tape it up tight, and send it all back to yall!

If the shoe fit, then wear it.

©Author Ni’Kay

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Posted by on March 20, 2012 in Uncategorized


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Insanity to some seems sane to me. Saying what needs to be said and ought to be.

My mind is going insane not being able to express myself exactly the way I mean. Holding my emotions inside because I am too afraid to let my emotions scream with the real thoughts I feel…my emotions are too real.

Wanting to say things that may be hurtful, but holding them in because my conscious is talking….telling me to be nice, to be courteous, to be the peacemaker for everyone. Really. Why do I have to be silent? My insanity is in no way violent.

But, I am tired because its driving me insane, not being able to say somethings….because if I do, now I have no tact. I may be called cavalier because I have talked back. I cant win for losing. That is why my sanity continues to take a bruising.

I am tired of going insane. I am tired of my tongue being in pain. So, from now on my tears will no longer speak for me. My voice will now release my SANITY.

©Author Ni’Kay

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Posted by on March 19, 2012 in Uncategorized


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